Sigh...

gotta love it.

non-permanence

Friday, November 05, 2004

I didn't know what to say.. or do. Somehow, I was expecting it to happen, hoping that it wouldn't. If that made any sense at all.

One of my cousins back home just found out he got a girl pregnant. The girl, unfortunately, wasn't of significant importance to him. Call a spade, a spade. The fruit of a one night stand. He has a girlfriend, as far as I know. But she's probably the least of his worries. Within the span of one week, he probably received a million different sermons from different kinds of people... aunts, uncles, his parents, cousins. He's in Singapore right now.

If I were there, I would probably given him my two cents. I absolutely do not know how he'd go about it. He was ready to get married. I couldn't imagine what that would solve. Or how many complications would go with it.

I've known this guy since we were in diapers. He was a kuya in a sense, that he made sure I'd go home safe. He would constantly tease and make fun. The day I found out he started smoking, I'm like.. nyeaah, what's new? I met a few of his girlfriends, though none of them really earned their way as a permanent memory in my head. His whole family moved to Singapore almost two years ago, giving him a sort of liberty. Yeah, he lived with my uncle and aunt. But they have no permanent hold on him. Not the way parents do.

It's not really a big of a deal when you look at it. He was probably bored. In the prime of his life, here was an attractive girl... the question in his head wasn't why. It was WHY NOT. They probably just didn't think of the consequences that went along with it.

MALAS. As most would put it.

It doesn't help that the girl's gone haywire and wanted him to go to her parent's house the next morning to get their blessing on the marriage she was already planning.

Less than four days and the news already is accross the continent. The news must have everyone up the sky. When something like this happens in the family, all is affected. It's like an inborn domino effect.

I can't imagine something like this happening when my family's in another country.. having to make the phone call that's every parent's nightmare.. and having to endure all the disappointed looks on the faces of the people you love.

He's going through a lot. Nothing as real as this has happened before. If pain could be transferred I'd willingly carry some of his burden right now.

Face the consequences head on and hope for the best.

Such a cliche.

But with my mind numb from shock, I can't think of anything else.

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